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How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back – The 5 Step Plan

You thought he was the light of your life, but then it all came crashing down. Whether the breakup was messy, consensual, or anything in between, the fact is you still miss him and all you want is to get your ex boyfriend back and you are going out of your mind being away from him.

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In this emotional state you’re probably not thinking straight. People in this situation make VERY poor decisions that will only make things worse and irreparably ruin any chance you have of salvaging your relationship.

Luckily, we’re here to help you learn how to get him back fast.

We’re going to save you from yourself, force you to think before you act, and focus on rebuilding the relationship from the ground up rather than suggesting you just keep throwing yourself at his mercy and begging him to take you back (NOT sexy).

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Get Introspective – Why did the relationship end?

Take your shoes off, close your texting app, or walk away from your computer. Whatever you were planning to do to communicate with him right now, just stop – that’s NOT how you’re going to win your ex boyfriend back.

You two broke up for a reason (or several reasons), and no matter how much you tell yourself it was a mistake, a misunderstanding, just a moment of anger, or whatever else, the fact is that HE believes the relationship was worth ending and in his mind it’s (mostly) over.

Before re-opening communication with him, it’s important to seriously think about the situation from his point of view.

Ask yourself some of the following questions, and be as brutally honest as you can. If you feel comfortable discussing these with a close friend, they may be able to offer some extra insight that will help you.

What was great about the relationship?

What made you especially happy while you were with him? More importantly (yes, more), is what made HIM especially happy when he was with you? Maybe you both loved cooking together, taking long drives, and of course, sexy time.

With the benefit of hindsight, what were some problems in the relationship?

No, it wasn’t perfect. In fact, it was so far from perfect that he ended it. Stop telling yourself he was wrong for doing that, and start thinking about things from his point of view.

He probably gave you some idea what was wrong, either by being upset leading up to the breakup, or during that last conversation.

Accept that without addressing these issues your relationship will be doomed to fail again.

Think seriously about how you can discuss these things, what steps you can take to address them, and, most importantly, how you can use them to get your ex boyfriend back when you show him that you’ve changed.

Focus on yourself

The last thing a guy wants is for a girl he broke up with to start professing her love, telling him she can’t live without him, and begging him to take her back.

Whether you believe it or not, breaking up with you was HARD for him – more-so if you had a long and serious relationship. The last thing he wants is to be reminded of the pain he caused you, and reminding him of exactly that will only force him to avoid you in order to protect himself.

That’s why it’s time to focus on yourself. Go out with friends, take some fitness classes, play some sports, do whatever makes you feel like a complete and happy person. Still miserable? Fake it ’till you make it.

When you finally get in touch with him, you want him to see a happy, confident person who believes that life with him would add to that happiness, not fix all of her problems.

He fell in love with you for a reason, and it wasn’t because you were desperate and needy. Seeing you happy and enjoying life will remind him that he used to feel the same way when he was with you.

Get in touch slowly – subtlety is the key

You understand why the relationship failed and you’re currently kicking ass at life in general. You’re ready to get back in touch with him.

VERY IMPORTANT: You have to have a reason for getting in touch

Under no circumstances should you message him on Facebook or send him a text saying “Hey, haven’t heard from you in a while and I was just thinking about you and wondering how you’ve been lately. Drop me a line sometime”.

His first thought will be “Oh my God why is she messaging me?  We broke up, what does she want?”

This is where subtlety comes in. You want to gently remind him about how happy you two used to be, show him you still exist and that you’re thinking about him, and that there’s nothing hidden about why you’re contacting him.

Here’s how you do that:

Think of some place/thing/event/whatever that was an especially happy day for the two of you. Maybe it was a restaurant you went to, a day-trip you took, a movie you watched, or a club you went to.

You want to remind him about this thing by asking a question. Let’s use a restaurant as an example – you might write something like:

Hey, I know we haven’t spoken in a while, but I had a quick question for you. My friend Janie at work was telling me her husband never takes her anywhere nice anymore and asked if I had any recommendations for a romantic restaurant. I always loved that little French place we went to for our anniversary (even though it was raining when we left and we got soaked on the way home!).

I wanted to tell her to go there but I couldn’t remember the name – do you know what it was called?  Thanks for the help, hope everything is going well.

Because you’re not asking anything for you personally, he shouldn’t have a problem answering. You’ve also reminded him of a special night you had, AND he gets to be the hero and help out your friend.

Now, if he ignores you, that’s probably a pretty clear sign that he wants nothing to do with you, and you may want to just accept that you’re not going to win your boyfriend back.

If he writes back and tells you the name, judge what kind of answer it is. If it’s one word – the name of the restaurant – this would be another indicator that he’s being polite but doesn’t really want to talk to you.

If, on the other hand, he writes back and tells you the name and adds any kind of fond memory he has, or asks what you’re up to, then you’ve got the green light to carry on with the conversation.

Keep it going, but keep it casual

One the ball is rolling, you want to keep hitting him right in the nostalgia. Choose your ‘restaurant’ carefully and have some follow-up related memories you can talk about (like how after you got home you were both freezing so you made hot chocolate and huddled under blankets on the couch).

Remember you’re still not asking for anything, just gently opening up the gate to renewing the relationship.

Ask for a non-date date

After a few back-and-forth’s you should have a good idea of how open he is to speaking with you. Be objective here. If he’s just being polite and you know from being with him that he hates confrontation or hurting people’s feelings, then maybe he’s just trying to spare you both some awkwardness.

If you’re actually having a conversation and he seems to be enjoying it, it’s time to ask him to meet up. Tell him it’s been fun catching up like this and why don’t you guys meet up for a coffee or something.

This has to be CASUAL. Don’t invite him to your place or suggest a spot that has a lot of loaded memories.

It’s also a good idea to meet for a closed amount of time, such as during your lunch break. That way if things go badly you have a good reason to leave, and if they’re going well you can cut it short and have an excuse to do it again.

When you meet up, your goal is to show him the new, confident you. Don’t throw it in his face of course, but you want him to see all that confidence stuff we talked about above.

Also, be genuinely interested in his life. What has he been up to? New job? New friends? New hobbies? New projects? Listen as much as possible and encourage him to talk about himself.

You want him to feel comfortable with the meeting and remind him why you were together for so long.

Be the person he fell in love with

If non-date date #1 goes well, it’s only natural to keep that going. Again, you want to focus on building the relationship from the ground up, and don’t ever expect things to jump back to how they were.

You’ve both changed, and all you should be looking for is progress. THIS is how you will win your ex-boyfriend back.

Above all, you want to show him that you’re still the person he fell in love with, AND that the reasons he broke up with you are ancient history.

Ideally he’ll start questioning why you actually broke up, and pretty soon he won’t be able to remember why. You’re well on your way to getting your ex boyfriend back.

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  • Samantha

    I need your advice please. I’ve been dating someone for the past five month when he broke up with me after I told him that I was going to visit my uncle with my parents cause he is very jealous and doubtful…he was out of the country for one week …so I was surprised when I left my uncle’s house to see that he sent me messages saying that I was offline for 2 hours and I didn’t open my phone and since when I have an uncle…I tried to explain myself and I even told him that I love him so much why would I lie…I never lied before and I would never do it…so he said that I always do strange things when he’s away…which is not true at all since I know myself…the second day he sends me bunch of whatsapp messages saying that I don’t care about him to not check my phone and whatsapp and to stay offline for 2 hours and that he believes I am not used to any kind of commitments…and since when I have an uncle…and that he needs someone honest and mature ….and after that he told me to forget about him and move on…I was so upset but I told him ok as u wish…and I went no contact for 5 days ..when I couldn’t take it but sent him I miss u if u care to know…so I tried to explain and he said that I helped him make that decision and then I asked to see him and talk whenever he’s ready…after 3 days we met as per my request, and I told him how much I love him that I don’t wanna lose him why wouldn’t I be caring….he insisted on me not being caring enough…so I asked him could it be that you’re giving that issue a big deal because you already wanna break up with me. he said I wouldn’t be here talking if this what I wanted…(P.S. the reason I asked this is that I am separated and I have two kids but he always said he doesn’t care he loves kids and he’ll love them because of me) … but sometimes he’s scared that my ex won’t leave us alone since am going through divorce and my ex doesn’t want that divorce…

    Anyway, after we finished talking I asked having another chance together…he said I need to think and get back to you we wont get back together today…2 days after he called me and was a bit sarcastic saying don’t get mad now and don’t stress out but it’s a tough decision since am attached to you, couldn’t get anywhere and I need more time to think…so I got upset.and told him take your time and hanged up …so I thought what did I do that bad to make him think about this relation and what upset me more is that I felt that he’s been taking me for granted …so I sent him a MSG straight after saying I’ll make it easy for you and make that decision… each one should find his way and better be apart and broke up with him …he was a bit surprised saying ” very interesting” then when I said I don’t need more torture in my life he said as u wish..gd luck…and I went no contact again and it’s been 4 days now… I miss him a lot …but I think I should not call him anymore…please advice me what to do I need help…I want him back but I don’t wanna initiate it …

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    • Anamika

      Sorry for the delay Samantha. For some reason your comment was in spam queue and I did not check that.

      Anyway, thank you for getting in contact with Loveblab.

      Just be patient. I know you’ve heard that a lot and you’re even telling it to yourself, but it’s the best course of action for your situation.

      If you try to initiate a new chat or even try getting back together, in his eyes you will be the weak woman who wants him desperately no matter what. This might sound romantic to us women, but to men it is plain sad.

      They seek assertive, autonomous women, not ones that beg for their love, they don’t need a needy woman by their side, but an independent one. So which will you be?

      I know it’s terribly hard, but you need to be patient. If he does want to get back together he will make his move. Wait and see if he’s going to ask for a second chance. Since you were the one that broken up with him, it’s wrong to take that back now.

      I know you might have regretted doing it a thousand times, but you have to gather up the patience to resist texting/calling him. If after a month he doesn’t get in touch, then you can initiate some sort of interaction to see where he stands. But no sooner than that. Be patient and good luck!

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  • Lisa

    How do know if he doesn’t love you?

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    • Anamika

      Thank you Lisa for your question.

      There are many signs that will tell you that he no longer loves you. One of most foolproof ones is that you will feel like it.

      Women have something like a sixth sense, some call it hunch, some intuition. It’s the gut feeling you get telling you something’s not right. If you do have experienced this type of premonition, then chances are he’s no longer in love.

      This intuition however can sometime be wrong. So it’s better to be 100% before any action is taken. Other signs of him no longer being in love include:

      - Distant, he no longer seeks your company, doesn’t want to do things with you.

      - Lack of sex, or frequency reduction. In the absence of love, sex becomes mechanical and cold.

      - Persistent lying, he will lie to get out of situations he doesn’t want to be in, so he makes up excuses and lies.

      - Lack of intimacy and communication. People who’ve fallen out of love are no longer interested in couple interaction. They don’t care about your feelings, your needs, your thoughts. If he ignores or overlooks you this is another sign.

      - His approach to you has changed. He is no longer romantic, gentle, caring and passionate. If he has lost any of these, he’s probably falling out of love.

      The best course of action would be to go straight to him and ask him about it. Not in a mad or threatening manner, but in a composed, mature one. There’s nothing wrong with making guesses, but they are only that, GUESSES. To be 100% you need to ask him.

      I already wrote a post where I discussed about how to tell if a guy loves you. You can read it here.

      Good luck.

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  • Dawn

    I dated a guy for 11 glorious months. I loved him with my whole heart and he always told me that he loved me more. Joe promised me we’d be together forever and we both believed it. I loved him because he was too good to me, his family loved me, my family got along with him great, we had lots of mutual friends, and we were able to pray together because we were so rooted in faith. This is something I treasure in a relationship. Joe broke up with me because he said he just didn’t love me the same way anymore. This was eight months ago. I’ve tried to move on, I dated another guy for a month, but I just couldn’t do it; I still miss and love Joe so much. I feel like I could never find someone as wonderful as him. We’ve had a few really long phone calls, in which he confided things he couldn’t tell anyone else because he knows “i still know him better than anyone else”. other than that, not too much contact has been made. He dated another girl too, but he broke up with her after a month because Joe wasn’t comfortable with choices she was making. I want to get him back so badly, but I’m too afraid to ask him how he feels about me because I don’t want to get my heart broken all over again. HELP!!

    Dawn

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    • Anamika

      Sorry Dwan to know the issue. Seeking some answers from him is the only way you can move forward with your life (either with, or without him). It’s better to know than to live every day wondering what he might be feeling or thinking. Gather up some courage and contact him asking to meet, its best for this to be done face to face rather than on the phone. If he seems unwilling, you need to persist.

      Once he agrees you need to maturely and calmly explain your point of you, what you want, what you’re willing to do for your relationship and such.

      Give him a chance to clearly express these for himself too. Once everything is out there you can then start coming up with possible solutions. If you see that he’s not in love anymore and that this is impossible to change then it is best to move on.

      Love cannot be forced.

      Even if he does agree to get back together, he won’t be able to see you like you are seeing him and you don’t deserve an average relationship. Every woman deserves a man who loves and admires her deeply. Don’t push if it’s already finished for him. Love awaits you somewhere else, just open your eyes and see closely! There are many wonderful guys out there! Good Luck

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  • Stacy

    Hi,

    I need some advice.

    My boyfriend and i dated 4 months. It was so not planned we started of shooting archery together training for a tournament and fell in love doing so. At the time i was still friends with my ex who use to pick me up sometimes after work and would drop me home. We were together for 5 years and it did not work out but tried to maintain a friendship.

    During the competition in Barbados we fell madly in love and when we came back home we could not do without each other. However my ex of 5 years was still my friend he use to come home and hang out with my parents and visit the dog he gave me while we were together.

    One day when my new boyfriend dropped me home he saw my ex’s van and instantly broke up with me. He said he could not take my ex being home at my house and him having to drop me off to him. I begged him to come back and told him I would stop it. I spoke to my dad that night and told him how i felt and how much it was interfering in my new relationship. My dad said this is his house and he’s not going to stop any1 from visiting.

    Eventually after begging my new bf to get back with me he did. he treated me like i was his everything and spend a lot of time with me. some time passed and he dropped me home and it happened again and he broke up with me. I begged again and he came back… all alone i tried to speak to my ex and he said he still going to come although i moved on because he still loved me.

    I was shocked and I told him I don’t love him like before. He continued to come and one day near xmas he broke it off again and he said it was for good this time. I begged and begged and nothing.

    Its been 4 months now I’ve been begging and begging and he says he loves me a lot but he cant be with me because he things I still have feeling for my ex. I don’t at all i love and am still madly in love with my new boyfriend.. I want him back he still loves me an says he cant be with anyone else so whats the problem i love him an i called 4 four months tell him that. I told him I’ll do anything to make it work just one more chance. I just give up what to do?

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    • Anamika

      Sorry to know this Stacy. Hope my advice will help you to fix your relationship with your boyfriend.

      They key to your situation is to empathize with him.

      Try being in his shoes, how would you react if he still had an ex girlfriend hanging around his home casually?

      Wouldn’t you feel hurt, even perhaps a little betrayed? While you might be 100% sure there are truly no feelings towards your ex, he has no way of knowing that. Plus, seeing your ex around your house keeps reminding him: “what if she’s still in love with him”.

      Before contacting him again, make sure you break all types of bonds with your ex, you need to make your dad understand and respect your need to protect your new relationship. Once you achieve this, try to contact him again. Don’t lose hope, keep on trying. If he sees you’re persistent he will hopefully come to his senses.

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  • anju

    hye, i loved a boy and he loved me too, we were in relation for last 2.5yrs, everything was going smoothly and we were going to marry(court maariage) in feb.13, but on 1 feb.13, i disputed with him due to some reason , after both the family meets and we seperated by their conspiracy and suddenly boy changed and say no for marriage. after seperation he talked me after 15 days that nothing can he do now and he stopped talking me, he changed his number , and from last 3months there is no contact b/w us. i am still waiting him, what should i do in case i don’t have his number and don’t know where is he? still loves him

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    • Anamika

      Sorry Anju to know your situation. From what I understand is he was probably under a lot of pressure from his parents to not marry you. Try to be patient for now. Don’t try to locate or contact him. He is going to do so once he is no longer under the control of his family. Since you said you were in a loving relationship with him and after his parents got involved things changed, all you must do is have faith he will somehow contact you.

      If he doesn’t try to contact you in the next two months, perhaps you should try more aggressive methods, such as searching for any clues online (Facebook, Twitter), contacting common friends, even his parents and request contact information.

      Good Luck
      Anamika

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  • Barbora

    Hi, I need advice from you, I am in very hard situation right now. Its very hard to explain, I will try to be clear as much as i can. Me and my boyfriend were together 4 years. The start of the relationship wasn’t the best because I was still dealing with my divorce and when i was with my boyfriend like 3 weeks I had to leave to USA to see my ex husband to make sure if I still feel something for him or my heart is healed and I can move on with my boyfriend. In the meantime my boyfriend was trusting me that nothing will happen and I will not have anything with my ex husband, my boyfriend was very patient in this matter.

    Unfortunately I had something with my ex husband during my 1 week stay. Then I came back and I dint want to speak to my boyfriend what really happened because I didn’t want to loose him. But my ex husband made sure to punish me that i don’t want him anymore and he told to my boyfriend everything what has happened. My boyfriend survived that somehow and we moved on and i had only the courage to tell him the truth to his eyes 9 months later when he really pushed me to say to him all. I admit i made mistake i should have been honest to him. But I was so afraid of loosing him.
    I would also like to mention that my boyfriend is from Portugal and he sometimes quite hot temper person and sometimes aggressive, he did hit me once when we had a fight. I did forgive him. Later on when my sister was visiting me I was driving his car without insurance and then I lied that I didn’t because I was scared of his reaction. he did kick me that night out of house even with my sister, he did that already two times. sometimes I was really scared of him when he got mad. this we solved somehow as well. overall we had beautiful moments together, we did travel a lot together, and didn’t have lately any problems. Just last month I started to be very stressed because all of the work and shopping he left up to me. We both are flight stewardess working for same company in the same place. So to manage cooking and all of this stuff was very hard for me on my own. so last most I exploded I didn’t talk to him too much and i tried to ignored him. I stopped doing the things and basically everything collapsed in the house. Then 4 days later he came to me and he said he doesn’t see any future with me and he got involved with colleague from work. now we are separated for one month, but the girl was all the time in his house. he said she is nice girl, she clean, she take care of him, and she is amazing cook. i feel like a fool, he asked me to move within 2 hours and he moved to the house a girl he knew one week. After one month he realized that the things are not so easy and he would like to solve the things with me but he said he is not sure with me if I will take care of the house and of him. So I said yes of course I will. But I think it got very far with the girl, he got use to her to have her there in the house and he said he feels comfortable with her. he said if he think with heart he loves me, if with brain he will choose the girl. I tried to win him back for over one month now and he is still not sure. what should I do? I really love my boyfriend, we were planning family and to get married. I don’t eat, I don’t sleep i am totally in mess and pain. Somebody give me advice please?

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    • Anamika

      Hi Barbora, my advice is that it’s for the best how this worked out. A man who hits and is verbally abusive to his girlfriend is never an acceptable thing. If you respect and love yourself you will get away and forget all about him. I know this is the last thing you need to hear, but abusive behavior rarely gets better, it only worsens. Unless he is willing to see someone for his temper issues, I don’t feel it’s safe or healthy for you to get back with him.

      Now, I understand you want to get back together with him. Before trying to win him back, you should first ask yourself whether you can be truly happy with him. When you look back, do you remember good or bad times, which were the most frequent?

      You are stronger than you think, you don’t deserve a man who beats and treats you like his servant. You don’t need to compromise to clean and cook for him. If you want to be together again you need to let him realize that he has to accept you as you are.

      Again, please don’t agree to get back with him until he agrees he will look into his temper issue. Remember, you deserve happiness more than anything. Good Luck

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  • amrita kumari

    Please help me my boyfriend broke up with me for his family problem and I want him back? I love him so much.. He is saying that he is continuing the relationship but he is not saying about marriage..please help

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    • Anamika

      Unfortunately your information is not enough to provide a more specific course of action. However, the best you can do is find a good time for both of you and discuss calmly and maturely your next steps.

      Both of you need to make the other person understand the motivation behind your actions (he, why he won’t marry you and you why you want a marriage and not still be in a relationship).
      Once everything is honestly on the table you can figure out a solution that’s mutually acceptable. Remember you must be willing to compromise as he must.

      If he can’t marry you right away you should make do until he can. Pushing him into something he is not ready for yet, won’t suddenly make him want marriage. Just give him time or whatever he needs until he’s 100% ready. Besides, its better continue being in a relationship than losing him altogether right? Good Luck

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  • saga

    Hi, after an argument I broke up with my boyfriend. I told him that I can’t handle it any more and I’m done but now I want him back. He changed his number and I sent message to his facebook and he blocked me. What should I do?

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  • Jenny

    A weeks ago I broke up with my bf for some reason. I knew that he was still made at me but he never came to me to patch up our relationship again. And by the passage of time I already started to miss him I am almost dying to talk to him but the fact is I ended up this relationship to make him realize what his fault was exactly he’s always doing. But it seems like he’s not paying any attention to that matter…. in that position what should I do?….please help

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  • gina

    I need advice please…

    We dated for a year and broke up on our one year anniversary, got into a huge fight and I kicked him out of my house because of too much alcohol.

    We both came into the relationship with issues…he was engaged before and I was cheated on in our previous relationships.

    He was always unsure to take that extra step because of what happened to him with his ex fiancé, didn’t want to set himself up for failure again.

    It’s been 3 weeks in total since we have not seen each other, however he text to see how i was doing after 4 days of us deciding to go our separate ways, i replied 2 days later and a little bit of small talk and him telling me he’s been thinking of me.

    The day after our text, he sent me a memorable picture followed by a phone call saying that he was in my neighborhood and wanted to see if I wanted to come down for a smoke, I said I thought it was a bad idea because it would make the break up process start all over again.

    Two days later he drunk texted me but I was asleep already, called him the next day tried to suggest to see him and we ended up fighting over our schedules he rejected my initiation and he took off the next day for a business trip for a week.

    Throughout the week that he was away we talked over text and pictures one day, and finally by the end of the week we made plans to see each other. But when the time came it seemed as though he didn’t want to which made me disappointed and I lost it on him again…we ended up cooling each other down and talking for a long time until 2am but his decision remained that its best we don’t get back together or see each other for now, even though he said he was so tempted and missed me so much and still loved me so much and thought of me everyday.

    I obviously want him back and he knows that, but I want him to want me back as well not feel sorry for me. I did well the first week and a half, but I lost it after, what can I do or what should I do to change his mind?

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  • gina

    P.S. My main question is, should I disappear on him for awhile and not get back to him when he gets in touch with me, or should I be responsive to him when he reaches out to me?

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  • s.rose

    Pls I need ur advice.. I meet my boyfrnd 3yrs ago, we started a relationship it was all nice and sweet but after 1year he told me he wasn’t “ready for a relationship” …and we broke up…but we got back together after few months nd continued….but a lot of things changed btw us…on our 3year anniversary which was 2weeks ago we had an argument and he repeated dat “he was not ready for a relationship” dat its better we break up….he said I deserved more dan wat he offered me nd dat I will better without him..we broke up again…but I just can’t get him off my mind, I want him back despite all dat happened I still love him. Is der anytin I can do to make him feel “ready for a relationship” ? pls I need ur advice urgently

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  • mimi

    p.s I need your advice, A week ago i discovered that my bf with wohom i have had a relationship with him for two years is dating another woman, he could not tell me after I have found out, 4 days later he called begging that I should give him another chance for he does not know what came over him and also that he needed time to close the relationship with the other. I accepted the apologies and gave him the second chance today again he still have this lady with him. what then should I do.

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    • Anamika

      Hi Mimi, sorry for taking some time. In last few days, I got too many emails.

      Honestly saying, he is just playing with you. So, it will be much better if you forget everything and move on. Sorry to say this but it’s what you need to do. Who knows, there might be better opportunities waiting for you. In BTW, how old you and your boyfriend?

      Good luck Mimi.

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  • Linda

    I was a single mother of 3.

    I made the wrong choices in men. I have always been a hard independent working mother and always will put my children first. I got out of a relationship that turned out to be abusive and couldn’t stand the evironment around my children and wasn’t a healthy relationship.

    Oh believe me, I told his mother to come get him cause he was a mommies boy and just couldn’t seem to grow up. Men puts on that first impression so he can get u and after your with them for a while, their true colors come out. Everyone has their flaws but watch the red flags!

    As I was single my neighbor who is 3 yrs younger than me and much more mature than my last with a good steady job offered to help mow my yard and we became friends. We just were so busy with work and our pass life we never took time to notice each other. Friendship grew stronger and turned into a relationship. Yes things he does might bug me like OCD but hey at least my house is clean and kids are learning from it! I can live with his unique ways about him. Now we are engaged to be married!

    Bottom line is don’t rush things! Eventually she/he will be there to catch your eye. Give it a try. Things may not be perfect how you can imagine them to be but if you can live with their little flaws and care deeply about the person then you will feel in your heart that she/he is the right one for you. I was just looking at the wrong places at first and never will regret my children. Things happen for a reason and to learn from our mistakes.

    We joined together and now i got one happy family!

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