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Tempting Light Bondage Ideas To Achieve an Powerful Orgasm

With the onslaught of various books on the market at the moment, such as ’50 Shades of Gray,’ ‘Captive in the Dark’ and ‘The Reluctant Dom,’ many women are getting turned on by the idea of Bondage and BDSM, (Bondage, Domination, Sadism and Masochism,) and would maybe like to try it, but don’t know where to start.

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Most men, (if they are honest both to you and themselves) have also thought about trying it, but haven’t mentioned it for fear of being thought of as ‘kinky.’

The joy of these books is that they have now given women the ‘freedom’ to talk about these ideas, with their girlfriends, or their partners; so we will assume that you are definitely ‘up for it’, but need some ideas how to progress from thinking about it, to doing it.

This article is intended for you and your partner to read together so is designed to give you both ideas.

Do I Need Special Equipment?

No specialist equipment is needed when you start to try these games, just try and think creatively about what items you have already lying around the house: silk ties and scarves can be used as blindfolds or for tying wrists together/to the bed; satin blouses/panties can be used in a very sensuous way on a blindfolded partner, as can a feather duster or leather belt.

Even if you find that you don’t already have what you need, think of paying a visit to your local charity/thrift shop; you can pick up some bits and pieces for bargain prices, and also help the not-so-fortunate at the same time

Preparing Your Setting and Agreements

Choose an evening when there are no distractions (kids/TV etc.) and plan your time.

Now I know ‘planning’ sex doesn’t always work, but sometimes you need to plan these things; it’s very difficult to be spontaneous if you have to stop what you are doing to go to the closet to find a tie! [Read – How To Have Better Sex – 10 Ways To Have a Great &  Spicy Sex Life]

Lay out everything you think you might need, or if you are too shy to leave them out on the bed, pop them in your bedside drawer in readiness.

Always (and I mean ALWAYS!) discuss with your partner beforehand, how far you are willing to go.

The absolute key to enjoying this sort of ‘play’ is COMMUNICATION; I really cannot stress that enough; there must be no room for misunderstanding, and that is a reason I would never recommend trying this unless you are in a stable, loving and trusting relationship.

Consider the use of having a ‘safe’ word, (don’t use ‘no’, as some people would use this when they really mean yes,) use something completely alien like ‘aubergine.’

If you then use that word during play, your partner knows that you mean ‘stop.’ You could also have a kind of ‘traffic light’ system, whereby, ‘green’ means ‘that’s lovely, I’m enjoying it’; ‘amber’ would mean, ‘that’s good, but don’t go too much further’; and ‘red’ would mean, ‘that’s hurting and I would like you to stop now please.’

Decisions, Decisions

Ok, we have the agreements in place, we have some items to get us started, and so what’s next?

You need to decide which one is going to be the dominant one, and which is going to be the submissive one; in most cases, we find that the woman would like to be the ‘sub’ so we will assume that’s the case here.

Men like to see and hear things graphically, so tell him what you want him to do; for instance ‘I want you to blindfold me (scarf or tie) and then tie my wrists behind my back.’

You can then leave further decisions to him, and you will find that being blindfold really heightens your other senses, so every touch and stroke will have you completely focused on that sensation.

Sensation Overload

Be prepared for all sorts of delicious sensations to assault your senses (Dom’s take note here!), such as ice cubes being melted over your hot nipples; a feather duster can be dragged down your body (this works best when the sub is tied spread-eagled to the bed); satin (of any description) gives a delicious sensation when stroked across the body; and for the brave, melted candle wax being dripped onto your nipples or clitoris gives the most delicious of sensations, and this is where the whole pleasure/pain principle comes into its own.

The body has an amazing ability to produce endorphins (feel-good hormones, similar to a runners’ ‘high’), and what starts off as a slight amount of pain can very quickly turn to an extreme amount of pleasure, thanks to these happy hormones kicking in.

The Freedom of Being Submissive

There are many women these days who feel that life is a constant juggle, between work, kids, cooking, cleaning, looking after the family etc.

Becoming submissive, if only for a little while, gives a certain ‘freedom’ to these ladies; it means no more decision-making for the duration of the game, and is strangely empowering and liberating in a way.

Once again, this is where trust comes in; many people seem to think this kind of relationship is all about the man causing pain to the woman, it is in fact, very different.

A good Dom will know what his ‘Sub’ needs, almost before she does; and the idea is that he ensures that all of her needs are met; this means that the balance of power is actually in the hands of the sub, rather than the opposite way round.

The flip side of that coin is that the Dom is the one to decide when the Sub will actually be ‘allowed’ to orgasm; ladies imagine being brought to the brink time and again, and then stimulation being stopped.

When the orgasm actually happens, I can virtually guarantee that it will be more powerful than anything you have felt before; go with the ‘flow’, allow your Dom to guide you, and he will ensure that your orgasm is unforgettable. [Also read – How to Get Your Man In The Mood Anytime, Anyplace]

Spanking and Whipping

Another thing a lot of ‘beginners’ would like to try is some gentle spanking or whipping; there are a couple of things to consider first though.

Men, make sure that you do not cause any physical harm, and ensure that spanking is never close to the tail-bone (coccyx), as this can cause problems.

Never be too forceful when you first start, a gentle smack on the bottom, using the flat of the hand, followed by a stroke of the clitoris is highly arousing, as is a leather belt (make sure there are no buckles or studs) lightly drawn across the naked buttocks, followed by a swift smack with it.

You can purchase purpose-made whips for these occasions, and I would recommend soft leather strands, nothing harsh. (The smell can be as intoxicating as the whipping action, especially to the blindfolded sub.)

You will both be so turned on by this ‘punishment’; you will need, rather than want, intercourse.

I hope I have given you a few ideas about how to get this stage of your love-life underway.

A more advanced guide to these games will follow in due course, where we will cover the more extreme side of BDSM, including ‘toys,’ such as ‘butt plugs’, collars and ‘fucking machines,’ to the kind of parties you can attend if you feel like going that stage further.

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